My Adopted Kid

Documenting my unexpected journey as an adopted/foster mum to a little boy who l met while delivering humanitarian aid and volunteering in the Philippines. Parenting Resources.

Little Family of Strays

Our little family of strays has grown by one …

Melinda J. Irvine

Yesterday on our afternoon walk, I swore I heard some lost kittens calling each other. To be honest it’s actually hard not to find or hear lost kittens on afternoon walks, there are so many street dogs and cats roaming around in this place. I stopped walking and asked Jerry to stand, be still and listen. I couldn’t quite work out where the sound began but the little voice was like a magnet pulling me across the road onto a vacant lot.

I eventually found the little cat, appearing suddenly from inside the long grass and his tiny frame  was quickly snatched up by Jerry (almost immediately I was begged permission for a pet). Cat was placed inside an empty backpack I had been carrying to bring home groceries, and he sat there crying with his tiny head poking through the open zip.

cat in a bowl

Cat’s brother or sister, even…

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The First Boy in His Family to Finish School

Today is World Day Against Child Labour and Jerry’s brothers and sisters have all been victims of Child Labour. I wrote this post to celebrate Jerry’s progress in school and to acknowledge the more than 2.1 million Filipino kids who are denied a childhood.

Melinda J. Irvine

A very excited Jerry started grade 3 last week, an opportunity denied to most of his brother’s and sisters. This is particularly poignant today on World Day Against Child Labour.

Like the other 2.1 million+ Filipino kids already working, Jerry’s brother’s and sisters are all part of these statistics, and this would have been his fate also.

Child labour is work that deprives children of their childhood, their potential and their dignity, and that is harmful to physical and mental development. In the Philippines, there are 2.1 million child labourers aged 5-17 years. About 95% of them are in hazardous work.

~ International Labour Organisation

Jerry and his sister. Jerry’s sister visits us.

In April this year,  Jerry’s older sister travelled from Manila back to Estancia to obtain her paperwork from the National High School here. After completing only Grade 7 she was taken out of school and moved to Manila to work…

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Little Wizard

Jerry and I wandered the dusty road from Balasan to Estancia yesterday afternoon. As I was taking photos I noticed Jerry crouched behind a tricycle hiding.

He sprang out laughing and showered me in torn leaves and tiny petals. “Love Potion!” he shouted in excitement, “now you will stop taking photos and fall in love!”.

Funny little man.

Melinda J. Irvine

you replay
crouching behind
a tricycle and surprising
me with your collected “love potion”
swirling leaves and flowers and petals
“you will fall in love tita mel!” you shouted
showering me in your wish. then once more for you.

© 2017 Melinda J. Irvine
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Mickey Mouse and the Baby Chickens

I've known Jerry for almost two years now and wanted to share a little of his developing empathy, compassion and self-awareness through some stories about his engagement with animals and pets. It's very encouraging. The Death of the Finches A... Continue Reading →

My First Mother’s Day

Today I celebrated my first real Mother's Day. I really felt like a mum. I didn't mention anything to Jerry about Mother's Day (actually I had completely forgotten), but this morning while I was typing a poem on the blog, he suddenly... Continue Reading →

Do kids think of sperm donors as family?

It's taken me almost two years of self-doubt to really feel like a parent. Hearing the views of the kids in this video is inspiring and gives me more confidence to be Jerry's mother. How do we define a parent — or... Continue Reading →

Child Development and Trauma: Dr Bruce Perry

Dr. Bruce Perry discusses the disconnection between what our children need to thrive and what the modern world has to offer, emphasizing the importance of human connections at early stages in life.  He also offers tools for parents to help... Continue Reading →

A Year of Growth

Jerry has been on school holidays for more than a month and still has five weeks before school resumes. It's a long time to keep a little boy entertained, especially when I am also working from our one-room shared space.... Continue Reading →


Melinda J. Irvine

‘Ghosts cannot remember
their sons,’ said he.
‘But mother’s cannot
forget their love’ said me.

© 2017 Melinda Irvine
Daily Prompt:Lovingly
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I Love You and Miss You So Much

If you have been following any of my blogs or facebook pages you will know that for the past two months I've been in Australia, separated from Jerry. I've survived it by our daily phone calls and clinging to the... Continue Reading →

Understanding Trauma: core needs of children (Part 3: Adaptive Coping)

Dr Howard Bath addresses the fact that kids in care who have experienced trauma can have difficulty controlling their emotions and impulses. Research tells us that learning to manage emotions is based on the availability of support, coaching and trust... Continue Reading →

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