Dr Howard Bath addresses the fact that kids in care who have experienced trauma can have difficulty controlling their emotions and impulses. Research tells us that learning to manage emotions is based on the availability of support, coaching and trust from caregivers. Active listening and focusing on the feelings that are driving their behaviour will assist these kids develop healthy and adaptive strategies to cope with the past.
Source: this video was uploaded by Family and Community Services NSW on 26 November 2016.
Knowing that Jerry’s so-called ‘bad behaviours” are actually his coping mechanisms is helping my responses. Jerry doesn’t get angry, instead he is clingy and tries to control situations which can be so frustrating when you are late for school or need to catch a bus. I must say in the beginning I didn’t respond very well and, as the video outlines focused on correcting his behaviour rather than helping him feel safe.
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