My Adopted Kid

Documenting my unexpected journey as an adopted/foster mum to a little boy who l met while delivering humanitarian aid and volunteering in the Philippines. Parenting Resources.



Little Family of Strays

Our little family of strays has grown by one …

Melinda J. Irvine

Yesterday on our afternoon walk, I swore I heard some lost kittens calling each other. To be honest it’s actually hard not to find or hear lost kittens on afternoon walks, there are so many street dogs and cats roaming around in this place. I stopped walking and asked Jerry to stand, be still and listen. I couldn’t quite work out where the sound began but the little voice was like a magnet pulling me across the road onto a vacant lot.

I eventually found the little cat, appearing suddenly from inside the long grass and his tiny frame  was quickly snatched up by Jerry (almost immediately I was begged permission for a pet). Cat was placed inside an empty backpack I had been carrying to bring home groceries, and he sat there crying with his tiny head poking through the open zip.

cat in a bowl

Cat’s brother or sister, even…

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The First Boy in His Family to Finish School

Today is World Day Against Child Labour and Jerry’s brothers and sisters have all been victims of Child Labour. I wrote this post to celebrate Jerry’s progress in school and to acknowledge the more than 2.1 million Filipino kids who are denied a childhood.

Melinda J. Irvine

A very excited Jerry started grade 3 last week, an opportunity denied to most of his brother’s and sisters. This is particularly poignant today on World Day Against Child Labour.

Like the other 2.1 million+ Filipino kids already working, Jerry’s brother’s and sisters are all part of these statistics, and this would have been his fate also.

Child labour is work that deprives children of their childhood, their potential and their dignity, and that is harmful to physical and mental development. In the Philippines, there are 2.1 million child labourers aged 5-17 years. About 95% of them are in hazardous work.

~ International Labour Organisation

Jerry and his sister. Jerry’s sister visits us.

In April this year,  Jerry’s older sister travelled from Manila back to Estancia to obtain her paperwork from the National High School here. After completing only Grade 7 she was taken out of school and moved to Manila to work…

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Mickey Mouse and the Baby Chickens

I've known Jerry for almost two years now and wanted to share a little of his developing empathy, compassion and self-awareness through some stories about his engagement with animals and pets. It's very encouraging. The Death of the Finches A... Continue Reading →

My First Mother’s Day

Today I celebrated my first real Mother's Day. I really felt like a mum. I didn't mention anything to Jerry about Mother's Day (actually I had completely forgotten), but this morning while I was typing a poem on the blog, he suddenly... Continue Reading →

Do kids think of sperm donors as family?

It's taken me almost two years of self-doubt to really feel like a parent. Hearing the views of the kids in this video is inspiring and gives me more confidence to be Jerry's mother. How do we define a parent — or... Continue Reading →


Melinda J. Irvine

‘Ghosts cannot remember
their sons,’ said he.
‘But mother’s cannot
forget their love’ said me.

© 2017 Melinda Irvine
Daily Prompt:Lovingly
I'm part of Post A Day 2016

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I Love You and Miss You So Much

If you have been following any of my blogs or facebook pages you will know that for the past two months I've been in Australia, separated from Jerry. I've survived it by our daily phone calls and clinging to the... Continue Reading →

The Arrival of Magic Fish Dreaming

Being in Australia away from Jerry over the Christmas break is hard, but our phone calls are always magical, and this was no exception …

Melinda J. Irvine

The Christmas mail to my parent’s house brought a wonderful surprise today, the much anticipated book (and some extra surprises) by my dear friend June Perkins, Magic Fish Dreaming.

If you have been following my blog you will know that I’m currently home in Australia working and raising money to legally adopt my little boy Jerry, and I called him not long after the parcel arrived, and that phone call was almost as wonderful as the book itself.

As I read pieces of the poetry to him he began singing the words like lyrics back through the phone. And what is even more beautiful is the magical place he is, believing everything I say.


“Fairies Teeth!” he exclaimed loudly. “No, I didn’t see that Tita Mel! They have magic?”

His enthusiasm and delight gushed through the phone as I told him about a boy and a girl on the front cover with different coloured skin.

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Crowdfunding for Jerry

Melinda J. Irvine

Filipino boy Jerry is only 8 and the bravest kid I know. His mother died tragically at Christmas time when he was only four years old and his father died in August this year. Jerry has been living with me for over a year now, but I am currently in Australia working and selling stuff to get back to him in the Philippines.

Help me adopt Jerry and bring him to Australia

You can help me adopt Jerry and bring him to Australia by doing one or all of these:-

  1. read our story at our crowdfunding campaign site and if it speaks to you, make a contribution
  2. tell your friends, your family and your co-workers about Jerry and our situation
  3. Share this blog post and the campaign on all your social media networks (facebook, twitter, linkedin etc)

Stay updated

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Family Bonding Day

My Proudest Parenting Moment

Jerry is slowly developing self-awareness, empathy and generosity. I’m so proud of this little boy.

Melinda J. Irvine

We were walking in the market yesterday, when a lady for no apparent reason, gave Jerry three pieces of native fruit. He received them shyly and then set to work on the eating.

After we got home he said to me … “Tita Mel, that lady give me fruit.”

I nodded in agreement.

“Tita Mel,” he continued, “one day I am old. Me give fruit like that too.”

I nodded again so proud of him. There is such joy in witnessing him develop self-awareness, the ability to feel, the ability to describe his emotions and an even greater joy in his growing awareness of others, empathy for their feelings and how what he does might affect another person.

Jerry is the ultimate proof, that you truly can heal your life.

© 2016 Melinda Irvine

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