My Adopted Kid

Documenting my unexpected journey as an adopted/foster mum to a little boy who l met while delivering humanitarian aid and volunteering in the Philippines. Parenting Resources.



Do kids think of sperm donors as family?

It's taken me almost two years of self-doubt to really feel like a parent. Hearing the views of the kids in this video is inspiring and gives me more confidence to be Jerry's mother. How do we define a parent — or... Continue Reading →

Child Development and Trauma: Dr Bruce Perry

Dr. Bruce Perry discusses the disconnection between what our children need to thrive and what the modern world has to offer, emphasizing the importance of human connections at early stages in life.  He also offers tools for parents to help... Continue Reading →

Understanding Trauma: core needs of children (Part 3: Adaptive Coping)

Dr Howard Bath addresses the fact that kids in care who have experienced trauma can have difficulty controlling their emotions and impulses. Research tells us that learning to manage emotions is based on the availability of support, coaching and trust... Continue Reading →

Understanding Trauma: core needs of children (Part 2: Healthy Connections)

This video focusses on the importance of healthy connections for kids in care who have experienced trauma. Kids and young people in care can be acutely aware that they are different and can hunger for normality. Mixing with local kids... Continue Reading →

Understanding Trauma: core needs of children (Part 1: Feeling Safe)

When I first met Jerry he certainly displayed all these signs and even now he still finds it impossible to let me sleep if he is awake (afraid I won't wake up). Dr Howard Bath presents the first of three... Continue Reading →

The Story of a Girl

Photographer Rick Smolan tells the unforgettable story of a young Amerasian girl, a fateful photograph, and an adoption saga with a twist.

A Child of the State

Literature has long been fascinated with fostered, adopted and orphaned children, from Moses to Cinderella to Oliver Twist to Harry Potter. So why do many parentless children feel compelled to hide their pasts? Poet and playwright Lemn Sissay tells his own moving story.

How Childhood Trauma Affects Health Across a Lifetime

Childhood trauma isn’t something you just get over as you grow up. Pediatrician Nadine Burke Harris explains that the repeated stress of abuse, neglect and parents struggling with mental health or substance abuse issues has real, tangible effects on the development of the brain. This unfolds across a lifetime, to the point where those who’ve experienced high levels of trauma are at triple the risk for heart disease and lung cancer.

According to the Child Welfare Information Gateway neglect is by far the most common form of maltreatment in the USA. Neglect is commonly defined as the failure of a parent or other person with responsibility for the child to provide needed food, clothing, shelter, medical care, or supervision to the degree that the child’s health, safety, and well-being are threatened with harm.

This practice paper by Sara McLean provides an overview of what is known from research about cognitive development in children who have experienced trauma. It provides principles to support effective practice responses.

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