My Adopted Kid

Documenting my unexpected journey as an adopted/foster mum to a little boy who l met while delivering humanitarian aid and volunteering in the Philippines. Parenting Resources.

Understanding Trauma: core needs of children (Part 2: Healthy Connections)

This video focusses on the importance of healthy connections for kids in care who have experienced trauma. Kids and young people in care can be acutely aware that they are different and can hunger for normality. Mixing with local kids... Continue Reading →

Understanding Trauma: core needs of children (Part 1: Feeling Safe)

When I first met Jerry he certainly displayed all these signs and even now he still finds it impossible to let me sleep if he is awake (afraid I won't wake up). Dr Howard Bath presents the first of three... Continue Reading →

The Story of a Girl

Photographer Rick Smolan tells the unforgettable story of a young Amerasian girl, a fateful photograph, and an adoption saga with a twist.

The Arrival of Magic Fish Dreaming

Being in Australia away from Jerry over the Christmas break is hard, but our phone calls are always magical, and this was no exception …

Melinda J. Irvine

The Christmas mail to my parent’s house brought a wonderful surprise today, the much anticipated book (and some extra surprises) by my dear friend June Perkins, Magic Fish Dreaming.

If you have been following my blog you will know that I’m currently home in Australia working and raising money to legally adopt my little boy Jerry, and I called him not long after the parcel arrived, and that phone call was almost as wonderful as the book itself.

As I read pieces of the poetry to him he began singing the words like lyrics back through the phone. And what is even more beautiful is the magical place he is, believing everything I say.


“Fairies Teeth!” he exclaimed loudly. “No, I didn’t see that Tita Mel! They have magic?”

His enthusiasm and delight gushed through the phone as I told him about a boy and a girl on the front cover with different coloured skin.

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PRESS RELEASE: Jerry Needs a Mum for Christmas

It was one day last year in the Philippine school holidays that Australian writer and musician, Mel Irvine met a little boy on a dirty roadside in the Philippines. He had cut, bleeding feet and no shoes and was crying.... Continue Reading →

A Child of the State

Literature has long been fascinated with fostered, adopted and orphaned children, from Moses to Cinderella to Oliver Twist to Harry Potter. So why do many parentless children feel compelled to hide their pasts? Poet and playwright Lemn Sissay tells his own moving story.

Crowdfunding for Jerry

Melinda J. Irvine

Filipino boy Jerry is only 8 and the bravest kid I know. His mother died tragically at Christmas time when he was only four years old and his father died in August this year. Jerry has been living with me for over a year now, but I am currently in Australia working and selling stuff to get back to him in the Philippines.

Help me adopt Jerry and bring him to Australia

You can help me adopt Jerry and bring him to Australia by doing one or all of these:-

  1. read our story at our crowdfunding campaign site and if it speaks to you, make a contribution
  2. tell your friends, your family and your co-workers about Jerry and our situation
  3. Share this blog post and the campaign on all your social media networks (facebook, twitter, linkedin etc)

Stay updated

To keep up with our story you can visit this dedicated…

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How Childhood Trauma Affects Health Across a Lifetime

Childhood trauma isn’t something you just get over as you grow up. Pediatrician Nadine Burke Harris explains that the repeated stress of abuse, neglect and parents struggling with mental health or substance abuse issues has real, tangible effects on the development of the brain. This unfolds across a lifetime, to the point where those who’ve experienced high levels of trauma are at triple the risk for heart disease and lung cancer.

Family Bonding Day

My Proudest Parenting Moment

Jerry is slowly developing self-awareness, empathy and generosity. I’m so proud of this little boy.

Melinda J. Irvine

We were walking in the market yesterday, when a lady for no apparent reason, gave Jerry three pieces of native fruit. He received them shyly and then set to work on the eating.

After we got home he said to me … “Tita Mel, that lady give me fruit.”

I nodded in agreement.

“Tita Mel,” he continued, “one day I am old. Me give fruit like that too.”

I nodded again so proud of him. There is such joy in witnessing him develop self-awareness, the ability to feel, the ability to describe his emotions and an even greater joy in his growing awareness of others, empathy for their feelings and how what he does might affect another person.

Jerry is the ultimate proof, that you truly can heal your life.

© 2016 Melinda Irvine

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Link to an article by Kathryn Patricelli, MA Long-Term Issues For The Adopted Child" on the website

According to the Child Welfare Information Gateway neglect is by far the most common form of maltreatment in the USA. Neglect is commonly defined as the failure of a parent or other person with responsibility for the child to provide needed food, clothing, shelter, medical care, or supervision to the degree that the child’s health, safety, and well-being are threatened with harm.

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